Finding our unique gifts can be a bit tricky since they’re often so deeply rooted in us that we might not even realize they exist! In this post, we’re going to take a fun look at our parents’ characteristics to see which ones we might have inherited. Don’t worry—most of us pick up both some great traits and a few not-so-great ones, and that’s completely normal!
Also, just a reminder that this post is part of our free course on uncovering your purpose. It’s designed to help you discover your authentic gifts and express yourself to the fullest. Let’s dive in together!
Start by making a list
Make a list of the traits you truly admire in them. What are the aspects you appreciate a bit less or may even dislike? Whether we acknowledge it or not, we are shaped by our parents in one way or another.
- Write a list of the ”very good” vs. ”less good” traits of your mom
- Write a list of the ”very good” vs. ”less good” traits of your dad
Perhaps you were raised by adults other than your parents, or other adults played a huge role in your life; if so, list their traits. We inherit traits both genetically and from our environment.
My own examples
For instance, my dad was very adventurous and creative, especially when it came to building things. He was hardworking and playful, and I believe I inherited those qualities from him. My mom, on the other hand, has a strong faith and works extremely hard. One of her life missions is to serve others, often putting her own needs aside, and I find that I have inherited those values as well. They both had more traits, but these are just a few. Reflect on the beliefs that have been installed in you by your parents and their parents.
We also download programs and beliefs from generation to generation
I grew up with some unconventional beliefs that made me question a lot. Additionally, I faced emotional immaturity, which meant I couldn’t fully rely on my environment for support.
This dynamic created a leadership role in me and brought me a great deal of wisdom. I realized that things weren’t always how they should be, prompting me to question the status quo. In doing so, I broke free from certain constraints, which helped me cultivate leadership qualities combined with my parents’ gifts. I am very grateful for that.
Choose how you look at these traits
What combination of personality traits did your parents pass on to you? We often tend to acknowledge the negative aspects, but if you think about it, every personality trait has both positive and negative sides. When traits manifest negatively, it’s usually due to immaturity or not being channeled toward a positive purpose. However, we can change that!
