Why Manifesting Your Desires Does Not Always Work

Knowing the circumstances can save you time and effort

If we have basic knowledge about energy and the laws of nature, we can work with these forces instead of against them. We can get where we want faster and experience what we long for.

A surfer works together with the wave, not against it; that is how manifesting works too

Surfing is a perfect example of how we can effectively use the forces of nature to achieve a desired outcome. But what if the surfer’s intention was to make the surfboard sink instead? That would be extremely difficult, if not impossible. Of course, that’s just my speculation; I’m not entirely sure since I have never actually surfed!

Apply the principles of energy in all areas of life

Nature’s formulas are everywhere. Imagine getting a cookbook with basic recipes for different dishes. Once we have learned the basic principle, we can cook the dishes repeatedly and put our stamp on the work of art.

Say you’re making mayonnaise from scratch. You know you need certain ingredients for fat and water to bind: It’s chemistry, physics, and the laws of nature. That’s why you don’t waste time making a yummy aioli with just water and garlic. That would be a waste of time and energy.

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Manifestation techniques are not about simply writing down what you want on paper

I often come across people who believe that manifestation is about writing down their wishes and waiting for them to come true. I understand why they think this way because it is kind of the message we get from the different media platforms. I do believe that being specific about what you want is very helpful. However, it’s important to understand that manifestation is more about actually aligning yourself with your desires and becoming the person who can fully embrace those dreams.

Your subconscious mind is involved with what you are attracting

When wanting to manifest something, we need to focus on our mindset and healing. When I say healing, I mean our inner emotional wounds. Unhealed wounds and traumas create programs stored in our subconscious mind (95% of our mind), radiating energy that is not visible to the eye, just like a Bluetooth signal 24/7. The energy we radiate needs to align with what we want to manifest.

The trap of attracting the wrong thing over and over again

Our energy draws experiences and situations into our lives that we might not consciously want (only 5% of our mind). Often, these situations mirror what we’re familiar with because our minds tend to revert to what feels comfortable and safe, even when it’s not truly safe at all!

Life’s challenges may hinder your ability to manifest your desires into reality

In my experience, it really helps to look at challenging events as trials or, say, tests. They occur to help us level up our game just like an exam.

After learning something with our intellect, we get a ”character test” to prove that we have embodied what we have learned because our intellect and subconscious mind are not directly linked.

Example: Although your intellect knows very well that you are worthy of love, your horrific self-image, that’s embodied/integrated into your subconscious, still believes that you are unworthy of love. And you will accept people and situations into your life aligned with that self-image of yours.

When you have embodied your intellectual knowings, your subconscious mind and conscious mind (100% of your mind) – are aligned! That is why we want to change our habits and energy.

This is when we have created automatic mental programs, and a new behavior comes naturally to you. It’s like learning a new credit card code or software program – it takes practice and repetition, but when you’ve embodied it, it’s hard to forget it.

Spiritual approach or not, it doesn’t matter!

I believe it’s helpful to view trials as tests and exams, even for those who may not have a spiritual approach to life. At their core, these experiences can be understood through the lens of physics and energy.

In my perspective, the laws of physics and nature are created by a divine intelligence, but this is simply my belief; it doesn’t have to be yours.

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Energy is constantly working even though we cannot see it

Energy is an abstract concept, and I won’t pretend to know everything about it because I certainly don’t, and even the most skilled physicists don’t either.

However, I believe that through the teachings of others and my own experiences, I have grasped some concepts that are very helpful for us in our everyday lives, particularly in relationships.

So, let’s keep it very simple so we can actually grasp and apply this to our lives.

Some forms of energy are visible to us, such as our own bodies, often referred to as matter. Other forms of energy, like, for example, Wi-Fi, are invisible but still exist and fulfill their purpose.

Although we can’t see Wi-Fi, no one doubts its existence, possibly because it is a human invention, and we receive immediate feedback when there is an issue.

Using energy like wifi, we can:

• Communicate
• Download information
• Receive and give various resources
• Connect to various channels, etc.

This is only possible if our device is receptive to the particular energy we want to connect with.

Sometimes, we need a specific environment, device, or password for energies to sync. Once the energies have found each other, we can do what we want, e.g., transfer pictures from a smartphone to a computer.

Fortunately, software and interfaces make this process relatively simple and give us clear feedback on whether we have succeeded in syncing. But if we step outside the world of technology, this feedback process becomes a bit more difficult.

Think about same thing when dating: We often become frustrated when we find ourselves in the same romantic situations, repeatedly attracting partners with the same issues.

We ”fail” to recognize that our approach, behaviors, and energy need to change in order to break this cycle and connect with different types of people. It’s like trying to connect to a specific Wi-Fi but repeatedly entering the wrong password and being surprised when it doesn’t work. To make a connection, we have to change the password.

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Relationships are governed by chemistry and physics 

Everything in the universe is energy and operates under natural laws, including relationships. Just as chemical and physical forces govern interactions, our attractions determine the people we allow into our lives. It’s similar to how ions interact and form various chemical compounds based on their energy and electrical charges.

I am not an expert in natural science, but it is interesting to examine how forces and energy function in nature, as we humans also operate under these principles.

Many people seem to believe that humans are above nature and its laws, but as far as I know, the only species that has actually outsmarted these physical forces are birds. They have “overcome” the law of gravity in their own unique way through built-in wings.

Understanding energy is not just about finding ways around it. My goal is for us to better comprehend its mechanics, work with energy, and achieve our dreams.

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Understanding energy might reveal why you don’t have what you want

By understanding and using energy consciously, you can create the changes you desire in your life.

Thoughts, feelings and actions are also energy that we send out through our energy field (also called biofield or electromagnetic field in research).

We are ”just like” atoms that get different results depending on what information our energy field consists of. Some energy attracts and creates bonds, and other energy repels and pulls away from each other.

Vibes matter for real

In order to create relationships with new people, our energy needs to match their energy. In other words, we need to become what we want. I know, it’s annoying.

Manifestation is a delicate dance between ourselves and the divine

Some manifestation experts have a tendency to teach the techniques of manifesting in a way that elevates humans to the status of Gods.

Humans do not possess power over the entire universe

While humans are powerful, we are not Gods. For a long time, I believed I had the ability to create anything I wanted, thinking that my will was more powerful than the divine intelligence that governs the universe. However, through challenging experiences and difficult times, I began to realize that what I desired and what I needed was not always the same, and divine order had a different plan for my life than I had.

Manifestation is a delicate dance between ourselves and the divine. We cannot control everything, and there are reasons behind events that we may not fully understand, either in the actual moment or perhaps ever.

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More examples of why manifestation methods might not work

How can I understand that chemistry and physics shape my life?

Let’s discuss relationships. Who are the people in your life, and what makes them important to you? I suppose it’s because you enjoy their company and share a unique vibe, right? The term ”vibe,” which is short for vibration, is quite relevant when we think about energy and connections.

The energy you give off attracts similar energy

Energy is composed of vibrations and is often referred to as frequency. In simple terms, frequency is information.

But I thought opposites attracted each other, is that wrong? No you are right, and that is actually another universal principle. However, if we included this perspective too, the post would be too long – it already is!

In short, we create relationships with people who have polar energies, too. In a union, where we engage in an exchange of giving and taking, sharing lessons, and fostering a harmonious unity (think of a magnet).  When we form connections – yes, polarity is essential. There need to be forces of attraction between positive and negative charges and energies. This concept becomes particularly evident when discussing attachment theories. Often, we are drawn to partners who share similar inner wounds or traumas (energies) that we have, but who have opposite coping strategies. This is where polarity comes into play.

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How to stop attracting the wrong people

Many of us face the issue of attracting people with behaviors we like less, leading us to think:

• “Why does this always happen to me?”
• “Why are these people drawn to me?”

If we have undesirable and recurring situations, we need to be curious about our energy, our electromagnetic field communicating with our surroundings.

Ask yourself: Is there something I need to learn in this situation?

Questions to reflect on:

• What energy am I sending out? Consciously and unconsciously?
• Is there anything I can learn from these recurring situations?

Many of us have yet to heal internal wounds (trauma) that have led to low self-esteem and a fear of rejection. These wounds impact our energy field and the relationships we form today. The best course of action, if we are dissatisfied with our lives, is to confront our shadow sides and heal emotional wounds. By doing so, we transform our energy, and our external circumstances will start to shift. 

Is everything that happens to me a result of my energy? I don’t believe we are responsible for everything in the universe, so my answer is no. However, if you notice repeated patterns in your life, it’s likely they exist to reflect your unconscious and emotional wounds. This is beneficial because it gives us the opportunity to heal those wounds.

There is often an assignment for us in difficult events, and sometimes these tough events help us come closer to our true selves and purpose. Our purpose is never easy, and it requires wisdom and experience.

Why taking the victim role holds us back

Seeing life from an energetic perspective can be challenging for many people. It often means acknowledging that we are responsible for our own lives and emotions, which can feel overwhelming.

It’s understandable that some may prefer to adopt a victim role, whether consciously or unconsciously. This pattern can come from deep-rooted habits, sometimes inherited. For instance, if our parents often took on a martyr role, we might subconsciously follow in their footsteps. Recognizing this can be the first step toward empowerment and healing.

We might think that if it’s someone else’s fault, then we don’t have to take any action ourselves. Perhaps this might also be an unconscious excuse to avoid stepping out of our comfort zone and pursuing the life we truly want, stemming from our fear.

We all occasionally fall into victim roles. Life can feel unfair at times, and understanding why certain things happen can be challenging. The crucial question is: How long do we stay in this mindset?

A mindset that views us as victims of our circumstances will not improve our situation or contribute to long-term well-being. But it may provide temporary relief through comfort, love, and empathy from others.

Giving up our own power to external circumstances communicates to ourselves: “I am not strong or powerful enough.” This mindset likely won’t lead us to the life we desire.

During our healing journey, particularly when engaging in inner child work, it is essential to show ourselves compassion and recognize that we, as children, were victims of some difficult situations.

Acknowledging that people are victims of terrible circumstances and deserve support and empathy to heal is essential. However, maintaining a long-term victim mindset will most likely hinder a person’s ability to recover from trauma.

Break the pattern by asking:

1. What can I learn from this situation?
2. What skills can I develop that will benefit me when this is over?
3. Does this situation give me the opportunity to overcome any fears that are holding me back?
4. When all this is over, can I help others with my new wisdom?

When we discover meaning in our experiences, we automatically reduce our suffering. It’s essential to understand that we need challenges to grow and become stronger. Life operates like a gym: we will not gain strength unless we confront obstacles and push ourselves. Often, life presents these challenges to us, and we must face them head-on.

How to Achieve Your Desires in Relationships

Many of us desire relationships where we feel unconditionally loved, safe, and truly seen for who we are – and isn’t that beautiful? Such relationships resonate with a specific frequency and embody authenticity, abundance, and unconditional love, along with the security mentioned earlier.

Many of us yearn to experience various emotions that we currently lack in our lives. We often seek someone else to come into our lives and provide what we feel is missing. Many people have an ”I want to be saved” mindset.

As we discussed earlier in this post, certain conditions must be met for us to obtain these things.

Consider the Bluetooth signal: You won’t be able to receive information, like a photo, from a computer to your phone if the two devices can’t connect. If the signals from the different devices are incompatible, the information – such as the image – cannot be transferred. This concept applies to people as well.

There are so many people out there who radiate energy, like unconditional love, which is exactly what we want in my life. The issue is that many tend to send out vibes of lack and being too focused on what they don’t have. These signals just don’t match up, and they can’t connect you to the feelings you might be looking for.

Our lack-energy simply will not resonate with the other person’s ”unconditional love” energy. In short, we need to BECOME what we want to get what we want. We need to have the right password. This doesn’t just apply to love, it also applies to money and other things.

Some concrete examples: 

• People who are confident in themselves and have a strong sense of worth do not have close relationships with people who love gossip and have destructive behaviors. True or false?  
• People with controlling traits do not have a close, genuine relationship with someone who always dares to be authentic, speak from the heart, and stand up for themselves.  True or false?  
• A bitter and burned-out person will not want to have coffee with their joyful colleague who loves life and sees difficult events as an opportunity to develop. A bitter person wants to have coffee with someone who is also a little bitter so they can confirm each other’s worldviews.  True or false?  

The list could be made long but I think you get what I mean. 

How can I possibly ”become” an energy that I don’t already have within me?

We can only receive unconditional love when we are able to give it to others. This reflects our relationship with ourselves.

Do you love and accept all parts of yourself? Our ability to love ourselves reflects our capacity to love others. If you want others to love you for who you are, you need to love yourself first. Strong self-worth is rooted in deep acceptance for yourself; it’s about the heart, not the ego. It’s the feeling that you have value regardless of your imperfections, allowing you to show all sides of yourself and, in turn, receive love for all those aspects.

The best way to help your children develop a strong sense of self-worth is by working on your own self-worth.

A low sense of self-worth influences our actions, often without our awareness. Children tend to model our behavior rather than just listen to our words. Although I don’t have children myself, I was once a child – quite an analytical one! This analytical nature was sometimes a struggle, but it ultimately provided me with wisdom and a strong desire to help others.

Summary

To create relationships infused with high-frequency vibes like security, authenticity, and unconditional love, we must first embody these high frequencies ourselves. It’s essential not just to understand intellectually that we are valuable but to truly feel this deep sense of worth in our bodies. Let the feeling of strong self-value resonate within us.

Embodying intellectual knowledge is what OUT of MIND is all about. That’s when we build the energy field that supports our dreams and enables us to achieve them. Now you know how energy works if you didn’t know before.

You need to become what you want and then the energies can find each other and build a union. Once you have embodied this technique, well then there are no limits to what you can achieve in your life. 

Hope this helps you on your journey!