The Hidden Forces That Influence Your Life
What if I told you that unseen forces are influencing your life every single day—whether you realize it or not? Just like gravity pulls a falling stone toward the earth, certain natural laws shape your reality. The more you understand them, the more freedom and joy you can create. Here are four powerful beliefs that can transform the way you live and bring more success, whatever success means to you!
Belief no. 1
”I Can’t Build a Life of Freedom from a Place of Fear”
Many of us are shaped by beliefs and habits we developed in childhood—patterns designed for survival rather than joy and meaning that lead to fulfillment. We are conditioned to make choices out of safety.
If fear drives your decisions—whether it’s staying in a job that drains you or a destructive relationship—you won’t feel peace in your life.
True liberation comes when you release these old survival mechanisms and start making choices that align with your inner core and what makes you feel alive instead.
We will probably stay alive by choosing safety, but we won’t actually feel alive!
Belief no. 2
”The Quality of My Thoughts Shapes the Quality of My Life”
Everything starts with a thought. Your thoughts and emotions don’t just affect how you feel; they determine the life you create. If your mind is filled with fear, doubt, and self-criticism, your actions will reflect that.
Shifting your internal dialogue changes everything we experience and do. That doesn’t mean we should suppress our important emotions like anger or frustration and say to ourselves: ”Only think happy thoughts.”
We need to pay attention to our feelings and process them, not escape and suppress them, because they will pop up at another time if we do. The skill of inner discernment is almost an art form that requires some practice to master.
Accepting the feelings we prefer not to have is, in my opinion, the first step towards processing them and eventually letting them go. However, they might not transform and leave altogether. But still, they definitely lose some of their power over you so that you can witness it with a bit more distance and ”chillness,” and then you can better identify what you need at this moment.
Sometimes, what we need to do is just sit with the emotions; I find that to be with grief – which needs to be felt, not pushed away. The feeling of shame, on the other hand, usually doesn’t bring benefits to our situation (read the disclaimer below) other than pointing out some of our inner wounds. If that is the case, first accepting and then starting to create a different narrative will eventually increase the quality of our thoughts.
Reframing is also a powerful tool to shift your mindset and increase the quality of your thoughts.
In other words, you become aware of how your mental and emotional inner environment shapes your reality so that you can consciously take the right actions beneficial to you and the ones you love.
Disclaimer: Our feelings communicate important messages to us. For example, the feeling of shame can be useful in situations where we have genuinely wronged someone else. This uncomfortable feeling motivates us to make amends and apologize, encouraging us not to repeat the same behavior. However, many people experience feelings of shame and unworthiness simply for existing, and this is very destructive.
Belief no. 3
”My Action and Inaction Both Have Consequences”
Every choice you make—or avoid making—creates a ripple effect. Nature’s law of Cause and Effect is as real as gravity. If you let energy-draining people take advantage of you, your energy will be depleted.
If you set boundaries and protect your space, you’ll have more strength and clarity. Whether you take action or do nothing, you’re always shaping your life—so why not choose intentionally?
This is especially important when making crucial life decisions and doing hard things. For me, it always works to change my focus point and look at my dilemma from my 80-year-old self in order to make wholehearted and authentic decisions that make me feel good and proud. Leading to no regrets.
This helps because at the exact moment we are facing hardship, we have a habit of leaning towards what feels safe, and that is often not the way to live fully. It’s often a way to regrets!
Belief no. 4
”Play and Rest Are Non-Negotiable for a Balanced Life”
Many of us were raised to believe that we must earn rest. That we’re only valuable when we’re working or achieving. But that’s a lie. I used to live like that, and eventually, it burned me out. But we are just like our big beautiful heart that beats and then takes a break.
Our heart does not need to earn rest and a break; it is just part of its life and existence. And necessary to fulfill its purpose.
This belief, however, was so integrated into me that it took me years to reprogram the belief that I was worthy enough not to be productive and rest even if I hadn’t necessarily ”earned it.”
Everything in nature thrives through balance—light and dark, movement and stillness, effort and ease. You don’t have to prove your worth by pushing harder.
True success comes when you create harmony between doing and being. Allowing yourself to play, rest, and exist without guilt makes walking in your purpose even more possible.
